Or, “How You Know You Are In An Abusive Relationship 101”
My mom absolutely refused to let me see this movie and once I actually saw it, i saw why
That’s the most chilling possible comment on this post.
Thor (liveblog) [x]
One of the things that I think gets overlooked a lot in fandom is that this is actually a really big deal, what happened here. I have seen so many dismissals of how Thor got a “vacation” on Earth, from so many corners of fandom (and I’m not pointing fingers in any one direction here, honest! it’s something I’ve seen almost everywhere), like it was a walk in the park.
But thinking about it… not only has Thor been stripped of his home and his title and his family, but he’s been stripped of his self. He went from a being with a 5,000 year life expectancy (and I would guess MCU Thor is probably about 1,200 or 1,300 years old, about two centuries older than Loki) to maybe 70 years more on Earth. That’s like getting told you only have a year left to live! He had no way of knowing that Odin would put a test on Midgard for him to win his way back, which was in no way guaranteed, because we clearly saw that Thor could not lift Mjolnir when he first reached it.
He has been made frail and mortal, he was no longer a god, the strength and powers he was born with were taken from him, he was dropped into a world where he knew no one and had no supplies and no emotional support. His ENTIRE BEING was fundamentally changed in a way that I think a lot of people forget happened because Thor just DEALS WITH IT, because Thor doesn’t crumble under it. Even when he has no idea what to do for the first time in his life, he’s still holding it together really quite well!
I think a lot of people forget that it happened because it doesn’t make Thor fracture and crack, but that instead he uses the time to make himself even stronger on an emotional level, because Thor uses it to make new friends and see the world a different way and understand the people he’s protecting better. It gets forgotten because Thor is not like Loki, he doesn’t fall apart when shit happens, because Thor is actually pretty goddamned emotionally steady. It gets forgotten because Thor realizes he fucked up and works to correct the problem, rather than going off on a spiral of self-destructive behavior and instead gets his shit together.
Which isn’t to say that I think either is more or less interesting as a character story arc! I enjoy both of them! Just that I think sometimes people forget that Thor actually goes through a lot of shit and a lot of loss but he DEALS WITH IT in largely really competent ways, which isn’t nearly as fic-worthy to play with as Loki is, when he’s a goddamned mess.
But, as a story to watch on the screen and to have as the character of my heart, Thor being good at getting his shit together and growing ever wiser and figuring shit out? OH MAN I AM HERE FOR IT. THAT IS THOR AND THAT IS WHY I LOVE HIM.
"What were you wearing?"
I wore a red dress to work today. It has a zipper at either side of my chest that can unzip and reveal a thin strip of skin. A coworker, without warning, tried pulling at the zipper and when it wouldn’t zip, instead revealed a good portion of my collarbone and shoulder as well as my bra strap. An hour later, the same coworker came up and told me to not wear clothes with zippers because he’ll go right ahead and unzip them. I shot back that unzipping me without my permission is sexual harassment. Apparently a manager heard and berated my coworker. At the end of my shift, my coworker told me that my little comment got him in trouble and that he no longer feels comfortable saying anything to me other than “hello” and “goodbye.”
I am supposed to feel guilty for pointing out that he can’t lay his fucking hands on me.
So I wore the infamous dress at work yesterday and ANOTHER MALE COWORKER DECIDED TO PULL AT ONE OF MY FUCKING ZIPPERS.
We were surrounded by other (also male) coworkers (that did nothing) and I swatted his hand away while promptly informing him that he didn’t have permission to touch me.
He then asked, since he knows I cosplay, if it would be any different if I wore a revealing costume. I gave him a dirty look and told him that no matter what *I* decide to wear, no one is allowed “to lay a finger on me unless they want my foot up their ass.”
Being that I’m quite professional at work, they were all surprised by my language and the ferocity with which I spat my promise.
you fucking go girl
apparently some guy named mark was trying to tell my mom he needed to speak with my dad about any financial transactions my mom was making because he was the man of the house and she did not take kindly to his implying that my dad was the primary breadwinner/person in charge in our family so
Oh wait now I get what triggers are
Yeah, see, THIS is a trigger. Something that prompts a horrible flashback that makes someone go into a literal panic attack. It is NOT something that makes you slightly uncomfortable, so can we all just stop tossing that word around like it’s nothing.
thank you Wreck It Ralph
Reblogging for valuable commentary
Also, can we talk about how Felix dealt with it? He NEVER used that word again (only once in front of Ralph, never by her), there was never any talk about how she could get over it, and in their wedding they all made plans to help her with her paranoia by recognising her fears and showing she was safe by pointing guns at the window and having extra security.
A++++++ on dealing with mental issues magnificently, Wreck-It Ralph!
Will never not reblog this when I see it
also this was the greatest 5 second character development in cinematic history
blows my mind that women are considered shrill and whiny when all i have to do is insinuate that male feelings are not my #1 priority at all times and every indignant male in a 500 mile radius comes out of the woodwork to let me know how they feel
no one is going to know what you need
unless you tell them what you need
no one is a mind reader
and it’s unfair for you to be upset with people who have no clue what’s going on in your mind
open up your mouth
and express what you want
It cracks me up when the actors on a show are also the producers because I always picture them casting themselves like
"Who’ll play the main character? Ah yes. Me."
u can’t beat the monuments men
umm excuse u
don’t mess with the Polar Express